Have you ever noticed repeating patterns cropping up in your circumstances and relationships and wondered why? Why do you sometimes feel like your spouse’s mother or your boss’ slave?
We all follow distinct patterns that end up dictating what our lives will be without even realizing where they come from why. So what if you could recognize the repeating pattern of being your spouse’s parent and change the dynamic to one of being your spouse’s equal? What do you think would happen to your life?
Patterns become ingrained or programmed in your personality in many ways. You might have been programmed with a belief in working hard (not smart) because that’s what your father told you to do. Maybe you ingrained the idea of not being good enough because a bully picked on you at school. Or maybe you established the pattern of never having enough time or money because in a past life you were homeless and had no family or vocation and unknowingly believe that’s happening to you today. The point is repeating patterns come from multiple dynamics and arenas. The key is to recognize which programs are not serving you and change them so you can have more of what you want and deserve.
When a person comes to me for therapy due to a breakup, career change, or any life uncertainty, the first thing I do is look at the pattern, whether it exists in present time or another time, and determine why it is and how it can be fixed…and you can do the same too.
By exploring your unique history and asking these 4 simple questions, you can find the origins of your patterns and develop new thought processes, actions and behaviors that will create the types of relationships and outcomes you most desire.
Ask yourself and meditate on these 4 questions:
- Where did this pattern begin?
- Does it still serve me?
- What would be a better pattern?
- Where can I start implementing that in my life now?
Once you have your answers, you can begin to alter your thoughts and behaviors to re-pattern and ingrain a new way of being that will allow you to experience greater opportunity, prosperity and happiness.
If you find that you are having difficulty isolating the pattern and what do to about it, consider enlisting the help of an intuitive who can aid you in finding your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual fixes.
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